Bridezilla. That single word encompasses so much. Whether it’s being demanding of your bridal party, throwing a fit over minute details or just being a general pain, it’s easy to stray into bridezilla mode. While bridezillas make for fun TV, no one wants to deal with one for real. Here are some tips on how to avoid being labeled a bridezilla.
Share Your Vision. Getting married to your best friend is of course the big plan for your wedding day. But what else do you want? An over the top event, a rustic romance, a casual affair? Whatever your ideal wedding day would be, make sure you and your fiance agree, and then share that vision with anyone that will impact the success of it – family, bridal party and wedding vendors.
Don’t Solicit Advice You Won’t Take. From the moment you announce your engagement, well meaning people will tell you what you have to do. While it’s not always easy to deal with all the suggestions with grace, it’s best to try. If you have no intention of including someone’s suggestions, be sure not to ask for them. It will quickly lead to hurt feelings, or worse family rifts.
Practice Effective Communication. While technology has made it easier to communicate quickly, it can also lead to misunderstandings. Short text messages can seem demanding or email tome misunderstood. If you need to communicate big concepts consider using phone, face to face or Skype to do so. This allows the recipient to hear your tone, see your body language and better understand your message. If you have a message that might be hard to hear, or a big request to make, do it in person whenever possible.
Have Realistic Expectations. Although your wedding day can be perfect, things may still go wrong. Dinner may be delayed, those who didn’t RSVP might show up, or it may rain on your outdoor ceremony. While you can’t control all aspects of the day, you can control how you react to them.
Ask, Don’t Order. As you work through your wedding plans, it’s good to remember that it is your wedding day. Not everyone you will deal with has the same vested interest and emotional attachment to making your wedding favors. If you need help with a project, ask for it without making it a demand.
Don’t Become Uber-Focused. If every time someone asks How are you and you launch into how you can’t figure out how to trim the guest list, people will stop asking. While this is an extremely important day to you, it is not the only thing going on in your world. Remember to take an active interest in others, do activities that aren’t focused solely on the wedding and take a break when it gets to be too much.
Have A Great Attitude. Planning a wedding can be a stressful and emotional time. Wedding budgets, merging families and a big event are a lot to deal with. Decide in advance that you will roll with the punches and keep smiling because those around you will look to follow your attitude. If you continue to smile, so will everyone else. Remember to say please and thank you as it will go a long way. Being gracious will leave family, friends, and guests with positive memories of your wedding day. Having their support for your relationship after the wedding will help you have a happy and healthy marriage. And isn’t that the point of the wedding day after all?
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