Picture this: Your groom is standing a short distance away with his back turned. You walk up in your wedding dress, carrying your bouquet, and tap your groom on the shoulder. He turns around and sees you for the first time on your wedding day during a special, private moment… (awwww)!
It used to be considered “bad luck” for the bride and groom to see each other before the ceremony. This superstition began a long time ago when arranged marriages were common and the bride and groom weren’t allowed to even meet before the ceremony.
Today, many brides and grooms decide to see each other before the ceremony. This can be a lot of fun – surprising each other and enjoying this unique time alone together while getting rid of some wedding jitters. Plus, the images are fantastic!
Before you decide whether to try or nix the first look, consider the pros and cons of embracing what’s becoming a romantic tradition.
Benefit: You get a private moment between just the two of you, plain and simple. (Which you’ll learn quickly come few & far between on your wedding day). You share tears, share a few laughs and really just be ‘in the moment’.
Con: You don’t get the original reaction from your groom when you’re walking down the aisle. Often times, the groom will be overcome with emotion, or at least makes a great face when he sees his bride for the first time. And then there is usually an equally beautiful reaction from the bride as she walks down the aisle with her father.
Benefit: You can get the majority of your photos taken prior to your ceremony. That means you wouldn’t have a large time gap between the ceremony and the reception, which allows more time with guests and or simply time to breath and not feel rushed. Who knew it was possible to have a stress-free cocktail hour? Pour a glass of champagne and enjoy!
Con: The earlier you take your photos, the earlier you’ll need to be ready! Since a first look essentially pushes your wedding timeline up a few hours, if you or your partner aren’t early risers this could be a bit of an inconvenience. Bypassing a first look could means that you, your fiance´ and your wedding squad get to sleep in a little and observe a more traditional wedding-day schedule.
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