Everything You Need to Know About Wedding Gift Etiquette
You’ve received the invite, you’ve RSVP’d…. then you ask yourself, what wedding gift should I give?
Mike Staff Productions takes pride in keeping our couples happy by providing remarkable wedding photography, videography, and DJ services for the big day – so, why not make sure the wedding gifts are top notch AND make things easy for the awesome guests? (Win, Win!)
If you’re a guest attending an upcoming wedding, you might think it’s as simple as slipping some cash in a card – it can be – but are you following proper etiquette? Let’s break some wedding gift giving etiquette tips.
1. Stick to the Registry.
When it comes to what to give, you actually don’t need to think too hard (whew!).
The bride and groom will essentially tell you what they want on their registry! They set up one up for a reason, and if you stick to it, it’s pretty much guarantee you’ll be buying them something they like. Sticking to the registry ensures you don’t get the couple something they don’t need, don’t like, or simply don’t want.
Now, it’s much more common for couples to register for a mix of traditional gifts, experiences, and even cash funds – choose something you’re comfortable with, or even a mix of items and experiences!
2. Don’t Wait Too Long.
There’s an age old wedding rule that guests have up to a year to send a wedding gift to the couple – take that rule and throw it out the window!
It’s completely outdated and does not apply to today’s weddings. Make sure, whether it’s cash or an item off the registry, you purchase and send the gift before or immediately following the wedding. With the convenience of online buying and shipping, there’s little excuse for such a delay.
3. Spend What You Can Comfortably Give
What’s the etiquette for a wedding gift in terms of how much to spend?
The truth is, there is no magic number that dictates how much you should spend on a wedding gift.
Instead, use your relationship with the couple as a guide. For example, you’ll probably want to spend more on a gift for your best friend, and it’s completely okay to spend a little less on someone you’re not as close with, like a coworker or a distant relative.
Also, consider your social calendar. If you’re attending several weddings this season, you may need to lower your budget – and that’s completely okay!
General Rule: Consider looking into gifts that fall in a range of $50-$200+, and use your personal budget to find gifts that fit what you can reasonably afford.
4. Don’t Be Afraid Of The Cash Funds
PSA: Monetary gifts are no longer taboo when it comes to weddings. In fact, most to-be-weds will appreciate having some extra cash on hand after the wedding day.
If you’d rather put your wedding gift budget to something a little more personal than common registry gifts, consider donating to the cash funds on their wish list. We promise your generosity will be appreciated, just as much as any physical gift.
5. Chip Into a Group Gift
group gifts are always acceptable—in fact, we encourage them. Couples will likely add a few big-ticket items to their wedding registry, which are perfect candidates for group gifts. If the to-be-weds registered for something that’s out of range for just one person to afford, ask some other guests to go in on it with you. The couple will be touched by your generosity, and you might even be able to save some money depending on how big your group is.
Commonly Asked Wedding Gift Giving Questions:
I am invited to the wedding shower, do I have to bring a gift for that, too?
Yes. If you are invited to multiple wedding-related activities, it is expected that you bring a gift to each one, so budget accordingly.
How do I find the wedding registry?
The first place to look is the couple’s wedding website. Couples can create a website & a registry all in once place. Some brides may include registry information in their invitation. If all else fails, ask a friend or family member!
Does my wedding date have to bring a gift too?
If you bring a guest, you are expected to factor that into your gift amount since the couple will be paying more for your date.
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