Who to Bring to these Important Wedding Planning Events
You’re engaged! Once you’ve taken time to enjoy your engagement, it’s time to start wedding planning. As you jump in, you may quickly feel overwhelmed. So many decisions, so many opinions… it can be tricky to navigate wedding planning. The important thing to keep in mind? It’s your day. In the end, the only decisions that matter are you and your future spouse’s. However, during wedding planning, there will definitely be some key moments that you want to include loved ones in. But what events need secondary opinions? And who exactly should you bring? We crafted this guide to help you decide exactly who to bring to these important wedding planning events.
Setting Up Registry: Your Fiance
Creating your wedding registry is a special moment in your wedding planning process. It’s all about crafting you and your (future) spouses’ newlywed home. From dishes, to bedding, to kitchenwares… it may not seem like much, but these are the things that you’ll be using for years to come. You both should feel comfortable and excited about the things that you add to your registry. Bringing any additional guests will just make the process more overwhelming. You’re building your newlywed home, so only your two opinions matter.
Touring Venues: Your Fiance, Parents (If Paying), Wedding Planner
Choosing your venue is one of the biggest decisions you’ll make regarding your wedding, it’s also one of the first decisions you’ll have to make. If you hire a wedding planner, be sure to bring them alone to the venue tours. They are the experts, so they’ll know what to ask. If your parents will be paying for any of the wedding, bring them along. The venue will take up a large chunk of your budget, so it’s important to get the opinions of anyone who will be helping financially.
Engagement Session: Your Fiance & Your Photographer
Your engagement photos are a private and special moment between you and your partner. At your engagement session, you’ll get beautiful photos, but you’ll also have the chance to get familiar with your wedding photographer. This intimate session helps you all get to know one another, so on your wedding day you’ll feel like a natural in front of the camera. Bringing along guests will just hinder the chance to grow a relationship with your photographer.
Vendor Meetings: Your Fiance, Wedding Planner, Parents (Maybe)
Your wedding day requires many vendors and teams to go off without a hitch. You’ll likely be chatting with a variety of vendors, setting up many meetings. For simplicity sake, just bring your fiance. These meetings will be working to create your dream wedding. The more people you bring, the more opinions you must consider – especially unsolicited opinions. If your parents will be helping financially, ask them which few vendors they’d like to meet with. Bring them along to just a couple meetings, and tackle the rest with your fiance.
Dress Shopping: Parents, Few Close Friends
Now it’s time to leave your fiance behind – it’s time to shop for the dress! While you’ve probably been dreaming about this moment for years. If you’ve been envisioning a fun group outing, please keep in mind that the more people you bring, the more opinions you’re going to get. In the end, the only opinion that matters is yours. Bringing along a big opinionated group is just asking for disappointment and confusion.
Similarly, when it comes time for fittings, just bring one or two close friends or family members. It doesn’t hurt to have another set of eyes to spot any imperfections.
Tastings: Your Fiance, Wedding Planner
Your tastings are one of the more fun parts of wedding planning! However, don’t make the mistake of thinking this is an open dinner party. Caterers usually only plan on the soon-to-be newlyweds attending these tastings. If you feel more comfortable bringing your wedding planner along, check with the caterers first.
Beauty Trials: No One
You may be tempted to bring your bridesmaids along, but hair and makeup trials should be a solo event. First, the beauty professionals are there to work their magic! They don’t need the opinions of your entourage. Second, these appointments are not quick, so your guests will likely get bored. Lastly, it’s all about you! You need to choose the styles that make you happy – guests not necessary!
Getting Your Marriage License: Your Fiance
Only you and your fiance need to visit the courthouse for your marriage license.
Shopping For Rings: Your Fiance
These are the rings you’ll wear every day, so this is a highly personal decision. Don’t feel pressured to bring anyone along to shop for rings. One you and your future spouse need to attend.
Premarital Counseling: Your Fiance
This should be an obvious one, but your premarital counseling is a private experience for you and your fiance. You’ll talk about some personal things, so it’s best to keep it private.