Answers to Your Most Important Wedding Questions
Planning a wedding in Metro Detroit? This comprehensive Metro Detroit wedding planning guide addresses every question swirling through your head. After helping over 25,000 couples celebrate their big day, we at Mike Staff Productions have compiled the practical answers Metro Detroit couples need most.
Timeline & Planning Basics
How long does wedding planning actually take?
The average Metro Detroit couple spends about 15 months planning their wedding, but don’t panic if you’re working with less time. We recommend focusing on booking your venue first, then prioritizing the vendors that get booked up quickly, like your wedding photographer, videographer, and DJ.
Pro tip: When you bundle services with a company like Mike Staff Productions, you can book your photographer, videographer, and DJ with one phone call, saving you significant planning time.
When should we send our invitations?
Send invitations 8-12 weeks before your wedding date. This gives guests enough time to plan and respond, while ensuring you get RSVPs back in time to finalize catering numbers.
How do we create a realistic wedding day timeline?
Your timeline depends on your ceremony start time, wedding party size, and whether you’re doing a first look. Here’s a general framework:
Morning: Hair and makeup (start 3-4 hours before ceremony)
- Afternoon: Getting ready photos, first look (optional)
- Early evening: Ceremony
- Cocktail hour: Guest mingling while couple takes portraits
- Reception: Dinner, toasts, dancing
When should we book our vendors?
- 12+ months ahead: Venue, photographer, videographer, DJ (especially for peak season)
- 8-10 months ahead: Caterer, florist, cake baker
- 6-8 months ahead: Transportation, officiant
- 3-6 months ahead: Hair and makeup, invitations
Budget & Vendor Questions
What’s a realistic wedding budget for Metro Detroit?
The average wedding cost in Metro Detroit is approaching $30,000, but weddings can range from $15,000 to $50,000+, depending on your priorities. We recommend focusing your spending on what matters most to you.
How many vendors do we actually need?
Couples hire an average of 14 wedding vendors, but this number can vary significantly. Essential vendors typically include:
- Venue
- Caterer
- Photographer
- Videographer
- DJ
- Officiant
- Transportation
Should we hire a day-of coordinator?
A day-of coordinator ensures your timeline runs smoothly and handles vendor coordination, allowing you to enjoy your day stress-free. They’re especially valuable (and another budget expense) if you’re managing multiple separate vendors.
Do we need wedding insurance?
Wedding insurance protects against vendor no-shows, extreme weather, illness, or venue issues. Policies typically cost $150-600 and can provide peace of mind for your investment.
Order of the Day & Ceremony Questions
What’s the typical order of events for a wedding day?
Here’s a standard flow that works for most Metro Detroit weddings:
- Pre-ceremony: Getting ready, first look (optional), pre-ceremony photos
- Ceremony: Processional, vows, ring exchange, kiss, recessional
- Cocktail hour: Guests mingle while couple takes family/wedding party photos
- Reception entrance: Wedding party introductions, couple’s grand entrance
- Cake cutting: Right the after grand entrance
- Toasts: Toasts before dinner
- Dinner service: Salad, main course with background music
- First dance: After dinner
- Open dancing: Party time!
Do we need a receiving line?
Receiving lines aren’t common anymore and can eat up significant time. Better alternatives include:
- Table visits: Go around to each table during reception (start with elderly guests and family)
- Extended cocktail hour: Attend your own cocktail hour to greet guests naturally
- Welcome party: Host a casual gathering the night before
Should we do a first look?
A first look allows you to:
- See each other before the ceremony in a private moment
- Get some nerves out before walking down the aisle
- Take couples photos in good lighting
- Attend your own cocktail hour
If you prefer tradition, skip the first look and save that moment for the ceremony.
How long should our ceremony be?
Most wedding ceremonies that are not in a church last 20-30 minutes. This includes:
- Processional (3-5 minutes)
- Welcome and opening remarks (2-3 minutes)
- Vows and ring exchange (10-15 minutes)
- Unity ceremony or special rituals (optional, 3-5 minutes)
- Pronouncement and kiss (1 minute)
- Recessional (2-3 minutes)
The length of the ceremony at the church will vary by religion and traditions.
Should we have an unplugged ceremony?
Many couples request an “unplugged ceremony,” asking guests to put away phones and cameras. Benefits include:
- Guests are more present and engaged
- No phones blocking professional photos
- More intimate atmosphere
Your officiant can make this announcement before the ceremony begins.
Reception Timeline & Entertainment
Who gives toasts and in what order?
Traditional order: Father of the bride, groom’s family, maid of honor, best man. However, modern couples often customize this based on their relationships.
Timing matters: Wedding toasts should happen before dinner when guests are seated and attentive so guests can dine and mingle (before packing the dance floor!).
DJ coordination: A professional wedding DJ will cue the toasts at the right time, ensure the microphone works perfectly, and manage the sound levels so everyone can hear these important moments.
How do we keep our dance floor packed?
Based on our experience at 25,000+ weddings:
- Smart seating: Place your dancing friends and family closest to the dance floor
- Professional DJ: Someone who reads the room and knows when to play what
- Mix of music: Blend classics everyone knows with current hits
- Volume control: A skilled DJ adjusts volume throughout the night
Photography & Videography Questions
Do we really need both a photographer AND a videographer?
93% of couples who didn’t hire a videographer regretted it, often as soon as the day after their wedding. Here’s why both matter:
- Photography captures: Beautiful portraits, detailed shots, candid moments
- Videography captures: Your actual vows, toasts, laughter, and the emotions in motion
Couples who hired both agreed that video does a better job of capturing emotions and creating memories for future generations. You simply can’t hear a picture.
What’s the advantage of hiring a photography and videography team?
When your photographer and videographer work for the same company:
- No awkward blocking of each other’s shots
- Perfect timing coordination for key moments
- Better quality photos and video because the team works together
How long will our wedding video be?
You’ll receive both an edited wedding film (1-2 hours) AND an 8-10 minute highlight video from Mike Staff Productions. No need to choose just one! The full film includes everything from getting ready through your reception, while the highlight film recaps your day in a cinematic and shareable format.
What’s a reasonable timeline for getting photos back?
Professional wedding photographers typically deliver:
- Sneak peek photos: 1-2 weeks
- Full edited gallery: 6-8 weeks
- Wedding video: 4 months (or more)
Metro Detroit Specific Considerations
What are the most popular wedding months here?
June, September, and October are the most popular months to get married in Metro Detroit. This Metro Detroit wedding planning guide recommends booking early for these peak times, or consider off-peak months for better availability and pricing.
How many guests do Metro Detroit couples typically invite?
The average Metro Detroit wedding has 139 guests, but your guest list should reflect your budget and venue capacity, not averages.
Michigan Marriage License Requirements
There’s a 3-day waiting period between applying for your Metro Detroit marriage license and when it becomes valid. Both parties need valid ID and must be 18 or older. Plan accordingly and don’t wait until the last minute.
Music & Entertainment Details
Should we have a DJ for our ceremony too?
A professional wedding DJ is essential for outdoor or non-traditional ceremony venues. They ensure:
- Crystal clear sound for your vows
- Proper music cues for processional and recessional
- Microphone coordination for officiant and couple
- Backup equipment in case of technical issues
What about music during dinner?
Your DJ should provide background music during dinner that allows conversation while maintaining ambiance. Volume control is crucial – amateur DJs often play music too loud during dinner.
The Bottom Line
This Metro Detroit wedding planning guide covers countless decisions, but focusing on these practical questions will help you prioritize what matters most. Remember:
- Vendor coordination is everything. When your photographer, videographer, and DJ work as a team, your wedding day flows seamlessly without you having to manage multiple vendors.
- Timing matters more than perfection. A well-coordinated timeline with professional vendors who communicate with each other creates a stress-free experience.
- Experience counts. After 25 years and 25,000+ weddings, we’ve learned that couples who bundle their major services save time, money, and stress while getting better results.
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Mike Staff is the founder and CEO of Mike Staff Productions, one of the most highly acclaimed wedding services companies in the country, providing award-winning Wedding DJs, Wedding Photographers, and Wedding Videography for over 25 years.
